In a recent conversation with a girlfriend, she confessed to one of dating’s most controversial topics: snooping. My dearest friend had said that recently she felt something was up with her relationship; she wasn’t sure what it was, but she had a niggling feeling and so took to her boyfriend’s iPhone to spy on his messages. Which led me to the ultimate question- to snoop, or not to snoop?
You, like my good friend, may suspect there is something up with your current crush. You’re not sure what it is, but you know all is not right, and with the growing use of technology there are an abundance of places to hide our potential bad behaviours.
When you suspect your other half may be cheating, involved in drugs or taking part in any other type of debauchery, is it really OK to scour their emails, social media, phone, or even their drawers? Whilst I don’t believe there is a black or white answer, the next two paragraphs explore the shades of grey that come with snooping on your dearly beloved.
Follow the link to check out my first ever article, and reasons to snoop, or not…
Ahh the Christmas season; an absolutely dreadful time to be single. No one to buy you presents, decorate the tree with, or snuggle up by the fire with. You may aswell just go to sleep and wake up when it’s all finished. Or not. So I give you: My 10 Reasons Why it’s Actually Not THAT Bad to be Single at Christmas Time:
1. Christmas is increasingly becoming a competition to see whose other half got them the most expensive, romantic gifts. It’s not even about the gifts. It’s about the food. And the baby Jesus of course. I’d quite happily avoid being part of the “my boyfriends better than yours harem”
2. The money you’ll save on presents will go towards a fabulous party dress.
3. You can kiss whoever you want at these fabulous parties.
4. You won’t have to have the “your place or mine” discussion over where to spend Christmas Day. Someone’s Mum always gets the hump over that one.
5. All the Christmas cheese, chocolate and wine. It’s mine. All mine. No one elses’.
6. I know a lot of blokes who find themselves “winter girlfriends”. I cannot think of anything worse than a man who uses me as his personal foot-warming tool. DO NOT TOUCH ME WITH YOUR COLD FEET.
7. You don’t have to worry about getting fat from all the glorious food; because no one is gonna see you naked
8. The absence of a sarcastic narrator throughout all Christmas soaps/talent shows/reality TV Christmas specials, is quite frankly, bliss.
9. There is no one to protest the theme of the tree- which in my case is ALL THE COLOURS and tacky, Santa shaped baubles.
10. You can live in your Christmas jumper. My Rudolph jumper will be staying on all day, everyday for the whole of December.
So there, I actually quite enjoy being single at Christmas. Yes, it is the season to spend with loved ones, but whose to dictate who those loved ones are. My girlfriends keep me merry throughout the season. And the year!
I was speaking to a guy the other day and our conversation quickly turned to Christmas. I’ve always been one of those people who absolutely LOVE the festive season. The food, the fashion and spending time with the family. There is just something about the festive season that makes everybody nicer.
I told him this and upon doing so, he looked at me like I didn’t quite understand. He then said something that still perplexes me.
“There’s not really any point in Christmas if you don’t have a partner”
Oh. Silly me. I forgot I was sub-human because I’m lacking in a man friend. I would probably come up with a more sarcastic post if I was able to get around this man’s stupidity, but I can’t. I shall therefore go and hide under a rock until Christmas is over. Forever alone.