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How to Get Over Your Ex

We’ve all been there, one minute you’re on cloud 9, you’re convinced you’ve finally found them, and then the next, it has all gone wrong.  It’s sad, but unfortunately it will happen to most of us at one point or another. Whether you were together for 6 months or 6 years, the breakdown of a relationship can be extremely upsetting, but with these few snippets of advice you can be on your way to your old self, and perhaps in time ready to get back on that horse.

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Talk to someone you trust
A friend or a family member. Breaking up is hard whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, there will be some hard feelings and you shouldn’t have to deal with them alone. When we talk about our problems this allows us to make sense of them, and discussing them with someone else can give you an outside perspective on your situation. We often see things with rose tinted glasses, but discussing these situations with someone else may allow us to see them for what they really are and offer us a fresh perspective.

It’s OK Not to Stay Friends
“Lets stay friends” a line that is often  heard during the dreaded discussion, or maybe even a few days later. Please remember this can be extremely difficult if the split wasn’t mutual and it’s OK to want to distance yourself for a little while. We live in an age where there are endless ways to get in touch with people via social media, and this isn’t always a good thing, browsing your ex’s social media can often lead to feelings of jealousy and inadequacy. You’ll already be in a vulnerable place; don’t add fuel to the fire. Delete them off Facebook, Twitter and any other type of media that may allow you to see them having a seemingly good time.

Take Some Time for Yourself
Maybe you gave up an exercise class on Tuesday afternoon because it was the only afternoon you could spend with your ex, or maybe you always wanted to start a pottery class but couldn’t find the time. Take this opportunity to use this new found freedom to do some things for yourself.

Don’t be in a Rush to Change Your Image
A lot of people will claim that a break up is a great time for a style overview, but be very careful.  After I broke up with my first serious boyfriend, I decided I would get a fringe cut. I didn’t think about it. I just booked the appointment ASAP, with a random hairdresser, and took in a photo of Mischa Barton and told her I wanted that hairstyle. This was a bad idea for two reasons
1) I have a round face, the style made it look rounder
2) I have naturally very curly hair.
So at a time I was feeling very insecure, I now had a hairstyle that didn’t suit me. Not ideal. If you do feel the need to change something, think very carefully. I would advise asking friends and family for opinions, using a hairdresser you trust and not committing to anything too permanent.

Alcohol Isn’t Always the Answer
A lot of people revel in doing the “look at me I’m having such a blast” which is fine, if you are, but going out and getting drunk to deal with a break up can be unhealthy. Alcohol is a depressant and if you’re turning to alcohol to deal with an emotional issue it could be a sign of something much deeper. If you’re concerned you’re not coping, speak to your GP.

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My Top 5 Beauty Essentials

Like all girls, I have staples in my bathroom cabinet that I just can’t be without. These are products that work for me, and no matter how many times I stray, I always seem to return to them.

Some of these products are for those with a lower budget, whilst others are a little pricier- although still reasonable. So let me introduce you to the products I love the most, some for years, some quite recent, but all completely worth it!

A good moisturiser
I’m cheating on my moisturiser.  I cheat with various other products, and although I always return to my safe old bet- Vaseline, I’m a sucker for anything that smells good and promises to leave me with a soft touch, so unlike my phonebook, my bathroom cabinet is full of good options.

Vaseline Essential Moisture in Aloe Fresh leaves me feeling exactly that; fresh. With its non-greasy formula that absorbs quickly, it makes moisturising daily a luxury instead of a chore. It’s my go to daily moisturiser. Alongside that I’m also a fan of Boots Extracts Vanilla Body Butter- a thick, rich heavenly moisturiser. A little more expensive, I use this sparingly, for special nights out or for when I really want to pamper myself. Lastly Johnsons Baby Bedtime Lotion- yes I’m aware it’s for babies. No, I don’t care. Its light lavender smell is perfect after your bedtime bath for when you need to wind down- eh, if it’s good enough for a baby, it’s good enough for me!

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Juicy Couture-Viva La Juicy
This scent is absolutely gorgeous, with top notes of wild berries and juicy mandarin gently tempered with honeysuckle, gardenia, and jasmine. Underlying it all are warm tones of amber, caramel, vanilla, sandalwood, and praline, and bottled up with a pink bow. I always get lots of compliments when I wear this and it lasts all day. A warm scent for the cold winter months.

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They’re Real Benefit Mascara
Costing £19.50, this is definitely one of the more costly mascaras I’ve tried, but my gosh, I wouldn’t go back.  Lots of people rave about this product, and rightly so. It’s the best mascara I have owned, and this is echoed by lots of other bloggers too. This separates and curls my lashes, leaving a dramatic effect. I have often been asked if I’m wearing false eyelashes whilst using this product, so it’s definitely a winner. Now I have found this little gem, I don’t think I’ll ever try another brand.

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MAC – Creme Cup
With its light shimmer and vanilla fragrance this lipstick is my go to when I want to add a bit of colour to my lips without being too bold. Mac has a wonderful array of lipsticks and this is one of my most used in my growing collection. It’s long lasting, and subtle enough to wear during the day, or to be teamed with dramatic eye make-up. Mac’s extensive range of lipsticks have become a little more expensive since I started my collection, now priced at £14, but you can’t put a price on a good lipstick, and the service is always top notch.

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Aussie 3 Minute Miracle
Made with Safflower Seed Oil, Aussie’s 3 Minute Miracle promises to smooth rough cuticles’, add shine, and restore manageability.  Having hair that when left naturally resembles something that looks a bit like a lion’s mane, I thought I would give this a go… It works wonderfully and smells delicious. I don’t use this all of the time; more of a treat for when my hair is feeling particularly battered, but one use is all my limp locks need to restore them to their former glory. £4.99 for a 250ml bottle that has lasted me a good while, is pretty good going, I would say.

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So what are your top 5?

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10 Reasons Why You’re Still Single…

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I’m aware most of my posts look like I’m a man hating witch (I promise, I’m not) and that maybe the reason why I’m single is because I’M the one with the problem (nahhhh) and not the men I’m dating. So, with that in mind I sat down yesterday, with a glass of vino and compiled a list of all the possible reasons for my single status.

1.       You’re needy. Men don’t like this and apparently asking your beau if he wants to go out on Wednesday night equates to being a needy mess.
2.       You own loads of teddies. Men don’t like that creepy shit. I don’t care. My teddy doesn’t take up that much room. OK he is a bit gross and hasn’t been washed for the entirety of his 24 years, but he’s my friend.
3.       You drink too much. I like to think I can drink any man under the table. In reality I am 5ft 2 and can only handle two glasses of wine before I vom. Being sick in your handbag is not cool.

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4.       Men are scared of your success… or lack of.
5.       Your face. Men are scared of my bright lipstick. They also don’t understand why I draw my eyebrows on.
6.       You smell. I smell expensive. I love Chanel perfume, most men get scared I’ll cost them a lot, but I promise I only wear Chanel on days that end in Y.
7.       You slept with him too soon. Silly you, didn’t you know you’re supposed to wait until the 3rd date?! Before that and “you is a slag”. Any longer than that and you’re frigid. Anyway, how dare you admit to liking sex. You’re not supposed to. Woman.
8.       You’re too fussy. Look, I’m sorry, but if you’re not over 6ft and on £30k a year, I don’t wanna know.
9.       You once mentioned you would like to get married and have children one day. Even if you didn’t specifically mean to them, they will start having visions of you turning into the crazy bunny boiler from Fatal Attraction.
10.   You don’t actually have room for a man in your life. I don’t think he would fit in my room because I have far too many nail polishes and shoes.

 So there we go. The most likely reasons for my everlasting singledom. To be honest though, I don’t think any of the above mentioned are bad reasons… what’s wrong with having over 100 pots of nail varnish and 60 pairs of shoes?! They’re necessities!

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Some of the Most Interesting Messages Received on my Dating Profile… EVER!

It’s Tuesday, and we probably all need a little cheering up. Tuesday is just one of those days, the weekend seemed like it happened ages ago, and there’s still a while until the next one. With that in mind, I give you some of the most humorous messages I have ever received via my dating profile. Brace yourselves.

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*Names will not be included with messages. Messages have been received within a space of 18 months and are not representative of the majority of men.

“hi i am on this for serious relationships and hoping for marriage if you are looking to marry let me know” –Easy tiger.

“ heya, i know this might seem odd, but im actually looking to serve a mistress long term as a slave, most interested in crossdressing and chastity  to me, you look like a gorgeous powerful woman hehe if your interested i would love to know! X”– Ermmmmm

“wots rong wiv ur eyebrows”– What’s wrong with your spelling? (There is nothing wrong with my eyebrows, this is just an example of a man who has read “The Game”)

“We noticed your profile and you’re a cute looking girl. Fancy making some money in adult films? If so message us back to arrange an interview/audition” – Ahhhh yes, I’m finally going to fulfil the dreams of teenage boys the world over. I get to sit on the casting couch.

“hi there, i would like to ask you some questions, what do you like to do, where do you work, what is your favourite colour, what is your favourite film, what is your favourite music, i look forward to your answer” – I don’t understand why some men are unable to use the correct punctuation.

These are just some of the examples of the messages that have landed in my inbox, but for the most part the calibre of message I have received has been reasonably good.  Thank goodness for the block button.

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Dating Profiles- Dos and Don'ts

Writing a profile can seem daunting. It’s a bit like a CV, you want to convince your potential employer you have all the right skills to do the job, but on the other hand you don’t want to look too arrogant or lie about your skills; only to be found out and promptly fired. So here are a few tips to help you get started on finding that special person on the World Wide Web.

Do Think about your answers. Be honest. You will be asked what you’re looking for and there is no harm in being truthful. Don’t think you could handle kissing an ashtray? Don’t state you would be fine with dating a smoker. Want a long term relationship? Don’t state you’re looking for  nothing serious.

Do Write about your interests. Try and include a variety of your favourite things, not just pubs, clubs and socialising- most people like those.

Do Add a photo. When I first started internet dating, I didn’t have a profile picture up, with the view “what if someone sees me?” Silly really. You’re all there for the same reason. It’s also a fact that profiles with pictures attract more attention.

Do Be positive. There is nothing more unattractive than someone who moans endlessly about failed relationships/lack of luck in love. Boo hoo. You’re profile isn’t the place for negativity, and no one likes a Moaning Minnie.

Do Message people. Don’t be shy. If you see someone you think you might get along with, read their profile and give them a message. Pick up on something written on their profile; they like museums? Ask them what ones they’ve been to recently.

Don’t Use text speak- we are not twelve anymore.

Don’t Send one word messages like: hey or gawjus (that is even worse).  Alternatively don’t bombard someone with a million questions. It’s not an inquisition.

Don’t Use topless pics/ pouting selfies/mirror pics. In regards to the first one, you may have a nice body, but whatever happened to the element of surprise? As for the last two, like I said previously, we aren’t twelve anymore.

Don’t Give yourself a stupid username like “Billybigbollocks69. Just don’t.

And finally. This one is mainly aimed at some of the men…

Don’t Send a message with an insult/ backhanded compliment. That book “The Game” has a lot to answer for. Any self respecting girl will ignore you.

 

You would think that all of the above tips were common sense, but you’d be surprised. So with all that in mind, you’re ready to go… Happy dating!

 

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Mr Boring

We’ve all witnessed those type of couples. Couples that sit there in silence during dinner, with absolutely nothing to say to each other. You would expect to encounter this situation after many years of bliss. Certainly not on a first date. Ladies and gentlemen, I give you, my date with Mr Boring…

Looking back on it now, I probably should have left before it even started. We had agreed a meeting place and time. Pretty easy, but it seems Mr Boring is also Mr Unable To Follow Instruction, because 1) he was late
2) he didn’t even show up at the correct place.
I found myself trekking half way across town in order to find him. Not impressed.

When I found him I was hoping that he was going to pull something out of the bag that might make up for it. He was tall, dark and handsome. Aesthetically pleasing, but I am looking for more than that in a partner. He had said that he would take me somewhere impressive, somewhere different. I was hopeful. I asked him where we were going, he looked at me, shrugged, and said “I dunno”
Right then. Maybe I read into things too much, but when a guy doesn’t show much thought or interest in something, it kinda says he’s not really bothered.

We eventually found somewhere to eat, he admitted to being a fussy eater and turned his nose up at pretty much every restaurant I suggested. We were sat down on a cosy table for two, and the conversation dwindled from there really. I asked him about his hobbies, his job, what he had been up to during the summer months… “Nothin” was the standard answer to most of these questions.

Nothing?! Nothing? How do people do literally nothing with their lives?

After what seems like an age of talking to, what it felt like was a brick wall, I eventually decided my food deserved more attention. I had lobster. It deserved the best of me. He seemed pretty repulsed by my love of seafood and proceeded to tell me so. I don’t really want to hear about how the taste of my meal would make you feel sick. Rude.

So for the guy who had promised me something “different” for our first date, what did we do next… We went shopping. Snore. Now I love shopping. Most girls I know love shopping. But if I wanted to go shopping I would go with one of them. We spent the rest of the afternoon walking around in silence until I got my flatmate to give me a call to pretend the washing machine had leaked and she needed my assistance. He asked if we could see each other again. I said no. In the nicest possible way.

Thank god for take away pizza and the fact my Sky Plus is set to record Four Weddings.

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My Top 5 Autumn/Winter Nail Polishes

My blog is mainly centred around my quest for love, this is true, however, I do have other interests. Like… shoes. And nail polish. There are a wealth of blogs out there dedicated to hair, beauty and fashion, and I am by no means an expert. But as a little sideline I would quite like to blog about the products that I love.

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Autumn has well and truly arrived. I love autumn. I enjoy the colours and layering up my clothes. I genuinely feel the colours we associate with autumn, suit me a lot better than the pretty pastels we all parade around in the Summer months (if we get a summer, I do reside in the UK) Of course the colours we wear extend to our nails. I’ve always loved nail polish. It used to pain me at school because we weren’t allowed to wear it. I was constantly being sent to the school nurse to “remove that gunk” from my nails. It wasn’t gunk. It was bright, shiny and pretty, but it was never gunk! I remember that for me, the most exciting part of the holiday was the realisation that I would be able to have my nails painted. Gone are my school days and I can wear nail varnish whenever I like. This has resulted in a good, strong collection of over 100 bottles. If I’m feeling down, I’ll buy a new nail polish, if I want to treat myself, I’ll have a manicure. An unhealthy obsession perhaps, but I don’t care. These are my top 5 Autumn/ Winter nail polishes…

 saville rowNails Inc- Saville Row
A deep, rich, plum colour named after a street in Mayfair, London, famous for its bespoke tailoring. This colour is a perfect autumn shade with a high shine finish. I love this polish; it’s a hard wearing and compliments my skin tone. I always get a tonne of compliments when I wear it.

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Barry M- Gold Foil and Gold Glitter
Ok, so this is technically 2 nail polishes, but I don’t wear one without the other, so I’m counting it as one. This look is perfect for Christmas time, with its festive colour and sparkles. I often layer the glitter over the foil effect polish. Whilst I do feel the Gold Foil could be worn on its own quite happily, I feel the Gold Glitter needs an undercoat of a similar colour to give it the oomph it needs.

miss moleGOSH- Miss Mole
A lovely neutral colour that gives off that autumnal feel. I’m always impressed by this- one coat and it gives an opaque colour. Lovely.

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Barry M- Red Wine
I like wine all year around. I like red wine in the autumn especially. I feel this colour compliments my pale and interesting complexion perfectly. I feel Barry M is good quality and a reasonably priced nail polish with a lovely shiny finish.

opi blackOPI- Black
Everyone should have a black in their collection. I believe when done properly black can look extremely classy. Once associated with Goths, I do feel black has become a lot more popular and will suit any skin tone. Added to a perfectly shaped nail it looks exquisite.

So there we go; I don’t have my Prince Charming, I do however have fabulously painted nails!

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September 19, 2013 · 3:46 pm